Tired as a Mother – The truth behind Sleep Deprivation
Do you still need an alarm to wake up? Personally, I am tired as a Mother!
We can all agree that the level of sleep deprivation for a mother far exceeds that of when we were in our 20’s up all night.
At no surprise to us recent surveys have found that women with children are of the highest percentage suffering from sleep deprivation with working moms topping the list.
The misconception that sleep deprivation only occurs when our children are newborns and past the period of sleep training will forever challenge us; unless they too are a Mother.
We can plan ahead, try to catch a nap on the weekend or stay up an hour later but nothing seems to work.
Here are the top 5 reasons Mothers aren’t sleeping;
- Insomnia – This isn’t something you typically realize until its 2 am and you’re staring at the clock. The stress, worry and anxiety of the day or what is to come breaks our sleeping pattern more than you know. Try using a sleep application on your phone or buy a fitbit, you’ll see how awful some nights sleeping pattern’s are!
- Depression – As odd as this sounds depression can consume our mind when we have a moment to rest and as a mother that typically happens in the evening.
- Kids’ Sleeping Pattern Changes or Disruptions – There is no way to prepare for this. Between illness, teething, over exhaustion, nightmares; such is life and we are blessed with motherhood.
- Concern for Kids – Between their health, development and schooling what isn’t there to worry about?
- Bedroom Environment – Have you thought about the mattress you are sleeping on or the windows that could use some black out curtains? Does your husband snore?
What you may not realize is the real impact sleep deprivation has outside of the typical wrinkles, grey hair and weight gain. Increased irritability will impact the “peaceful parenting” method you are trying. Lack of focus can cause a car accident when you are out running errands.
The struggle is real, it’s time to acknowledge it and make a plan that works for YOU.
Set a bedtime.
Add in 30 minutes of relaxation before your bedtime so you can mentally unwind from the day.
Schedule cleaning time.
Easier said than done however setting a schedule with one simple chore a day or a few on one day will allow you to mentally accept what your body cannot complete.
Spend 10 minutes preparing for the next morning before bed.
This includes setting the timer for your cup of coffee and setting out your clothes! Who wouldn’t love an extra 10 minutes to yourself when you wake up.
Set expectations with your kids.
This is different for every age however as a newborn you know then the child will napping, you should too! As a toddler, you can set two 30 minute windows where they watch their favorite show with a snack you picked out. After the show let them know you can play together for 30 minutes to help with the reward.
Set a Mom’s Day.
If you aren’t able to afford a babysitter, set a day with fellow mothers so you can find laughter in the challenges of daily life. Laughter is good for the soul!
Our strength and perseverance push us to finish each day and prepare ourselves for the next!
You, Mamma, deserve a reward!