Are the sleepless nights emotionally draining you?
As you meet other parents nine out of ten will have a toddler story to tell that includes “I hadn’t slept.” When you do meet that 10 percent who’s children sleep I can guarantee you a sudden rage of jealousy and curiosity will overwhelm you and after a period of time you stop asking how do you get your child to sleep. I’ve come to realize its 1 of 2 things… Either the sleeping fairy has blessed that family with the gift of pillows, silence and sanity or Benadryl.
Our little David, he likes to party much like his friends. How do the songs go; “Ain’t no rest for the wicked” .. “No sleep in Brooklyn?” Well Greg and I often sing, No rest for David and No sleep for David. It always seems to bring a delirious smile to our face regardless of the hour.
We did learn early on that leaving the TV on with soft music didn’t help keep our son to sleep. A few of the things we have tried and added to his crib and nursery with success;
Then there are the nights where nothing has worked to help them sleep.
At 3 am when your child awakes crying and sees your face for the first time its as if you are Batman who received a bat call in the night and have come to rescue them from the anxiety of missing a moment in life. The look of salvation followed by their little arms wrapped around you as you carry them away and then you notice the dreaded smile and glaring eyes.
As a parent you have 2 choices, pray that in the quiet still of your arms they will find comfort and only a minimal amount of time will pass before you hear them back in deep sleep OR turn on the TV, their favorite movie and hope the distraction will offer them comfort so you can obtain another 90 minutes of rest before they realize this isn’t fun anymore. Personally, we have tried a lot, educated ourselves on best practices and at this time accepted to enjoy the moments.
Here are some movies we watch at night that have provided relaxation;
Moana – Provides peaceful singing and water
Snow White – Our son remains focused on her voice and her singing
The GoodNight show on Sprout – The characters sleeping and bedtime stories without the vibrant colors provides a calm room.
We watch all of these through our Fire TV Stick with Alexa Voice Remote | Streaming Media Playerand have cut cable!
Regardless of the reason, your still lacking in sleep and still have responsibilities. As a Working Mom you don’t have an option but to just push through. Morning Mommy Juice in my case is often coffee or ice tea whichever I can get my hands on faster. You go into work with often a wind of energy until your first meeting approaches. As you are sitting at the table someone inevitably asks, how are you? Typical responses include tired, can’t wait for Friday, excited for the game tonight until the new parent speaks. In this case, that was me.
I probably repeated the same story of how David didn’t sleep, not sure why, provided a detailed summary of the before bed activities, a full description of the evening symptoms and the midnight party excitement when someone in the room says the word Benadryl. If this has similarly happened to you, did you ever stop to look around and see how many parents nodded their head in agreement or laughed to identify as one who has partaken in this method? I cannot say that there haven’t been nights we have needed to help David find rest and utilized Tylenol but the common response and agreement to Benadryl is alarming.
I absolutely agree that we as parents need rest for our sanity no argument there (I’ve got the grey hairs, wrinkles and saggy eyes to show for it). I also agree that in some instances it is necessary but what about those instances it is not? At some point there needs to be a personal check-in and realize that maybe your child needs a little more comfort. There’s also the reality that this age passes by fast and soon they are going to be kicking you out of their room or they won’t even fit in your bed. My personal choice for the time being, lets have a party. That’s right, I might not be in my 20’s anymore but I am going to live as if my son is the DJ and he’s playing my song… all from my bed!
How do we survive?