Pregnancy hormones and meltdown is real, you are not alone!
The reality of Pregnancy Hormones and how it impacts your emotions are overwhelming. I am not a licensed medical professional and I will always encourage someone to seek professional help. I do however understand you are probably wondering if pregnancy has made you crazy.
If you find yourself crying or upset over small things such as spilled milk, toilet paper rolls and un responded texts, odds are it’s your pregnancy hormones. Don’t worry. you’re not alone.
I felt alone, unfamiliar and out of control as I went about my day-to-day life. My close family and friends all lived in California while I was here in Texas with my fiancé and a handful of close friends. To make matters worse, I am the worst at asking for help!
Having a career in Sales & Training Management, I needed to keep a smile on my face and keep up a sense of sanity for 9 hours a day. I still remember the day my boss told me I was negative and unsupportive and I broke down crying into a million pieces, not yet knowing I was pregnant. It was a new boss who had known very little about me and those are two things that you would never hear anyone say about me. I didn’t know how to tell my fiancé I was falling to pieces, and he was in school learning how to support people with these exact problems (counseling major).
I began to read about pregnancy, and finally confided in a friend for hours. I was excited to be having a baby, but felt guilty as I didn’t know how to celebrate this new journey. The pregnancy hormones and emotions had just kicked in and I was losing control.
Having a history of anxiety and everything that goes along with it, the last thing I wanted to consider was medication until became 100% necessary. In my third trimester, I was going to the doctor weekly and she had noticed my moods were shifting dramatically within the 10 minutes I spent with her.
At 33 weeks pregnant, the doctor advised that I take medication. She was concerned for my hormonal emotions postpartum given my current emotional state. Against all advice, I refused.
Shortly following that visit, I was at home and crying uncontrollably over picking an outfit for dinner and I realized the doctor was right. At 34 weeks pregnant, I agreed to a low dosage of medication.
Here are some of the things I suggest during your pregnancy and those moments you don’t have a friend to turn to.
- Journal; there is nothing more healing than the feeling of acknowledging something is going on but you’re not sure how to handle it quite yet, writing is very soothing.
- Routine; Do not stop your daily routine unless it is physically demanding or unhealthy. If that meant you were getting up at 6 and going to the gym, do not stop. If that meant you were going to happy hour twice a week, change the happy hour to a social hour. Maybe consider joining a fellow mom group or going to Barnes and Nobles to pick up a book, grab a treat at Starbucks and think about baby names.
- Healthy Eating; Often we find ourselves stuffing our emotions with food. As someone with an eating disorder (more on this later), this came easily to me and I found myself more upset when I couldn’t find clothes, or whatever I ate didn’t satisfy me at that moment. Finding high-fiber snacks that require patience to eat such as celery with peanut butter worked great for me. It also helped with my water intake, which is another necessity not just for physical purposes but mentally.
- Enjoy the nesting phase! Clean, organize, decorate, make the house a home! You will find great pleasure in this. If you aren’t nesting yet, jump on Pinterest and find things you want to do when you are nesting! Here are some things to keep you busy!
- Recipes – Pinterest! Okay, not everyone is Betty Crocker but this helped me in many ways. I was able to distract myself mentally as well as help find my food cravings. I highly suggest trying one new recipe this week, it’s a great feeling of accomplishment.
- Walk, walk, walk. I know it hurts, you’re laughing at me, and if you can’t walk – get outside. Now I know it is hot outside in the summer, that’s when you consider the pool, indoor malls with sunlight and if all else fails, go for a drive!
- Plan a trip. This can just be to a friend or relatives within driving distance. This is a good opportunity to re-group and get out of the day-to-day mental challenges.
- Just know this is 9 months. It seems like forever, but I can guarantee you after a year you’ll look back and think wow what was I going through and realize all the advice you had received really did make sense when it sounded crazy as heck at the moment. Please see your doctor and know you are not alone!
- Have you started picking out everything you need for your newborn? Here are some essentials!
Luxury items while you are pregnant to aid in your comfort:
Much love with your pregnancy!
You CAN do this! xoxo, Darcy