Returning Home with a Newborn Baby
After months of advice received from others and copious amounts of reading I did on the internet, nothing could have prepared me for returning home with a newborn baby.
I will never forget the amount of times I heard “be sure to get lots of rest.” When I heard that, I assumed it was because they knew how tiring it was to be pregnant and the elements of giving birth. Absolutely not the case. No one mentions to you the lack of sleep you will have for at least the next 6 months.
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My sanity left about 2 weeks after David was born. Between what I now realize is Postpartum Depression and trying to recover from a C Section (Recovery advice anyone having a baby needs to know!) I was alone, family had returned back to California and he had returned back to work & school.
I didn’t have time to talk with friends and the euphoria of having a new baby was fading. I was so exhausted that simple chores, returning texts, or shaving my legs in the shower was impossible.
Here is my best first time mom advice!
Establish daytime vs. nighttime activities with your newborn as soon as possible. During the daytime, keep the house bright, airy and with playful noises. Once nighttime rolls around, begin to dim the interior lights after dinner, play some soothing music and begin your evening bedtime prep.
This was crucial to both of our sanity! Showing your newborn a routine before bed of what to expect will help their mindset and lessen traumatic crying before bed.
- Quiet playtime or movie (with playmat or play yard)
- Bath and massage (with lavender scents to calm you AND the baby)
- Rocking and nursing
- Light music and in the crib or bassinet
Schedule a weekly “night off” or “afternoon break”
Every week you need to plan for a night off and afternoon break. This does not necessarily mean you are leaving your baby, this could involve family coming to stay with you for an evening or joining you for an afternoon of errands or lunch with the baby.
Set out a SIMPLE daily plan
Make a daily list of the things you think you need to get accomplished and celebrate when you can check off 1 to 2 things from that list. Add to it if necessary but this will help you clear your mind and prioritize.
Don’t forget the word Simple because there is more!
Simplify every aspect of your life
Groceries – Walmart Grocery Pickup is the BEST. Schedule it a few hours, start your check in before you get there and they even load your car! I have some trunk organizers that I use so I don’t need to take multiple trips inside. I still love Amazon Prime delivery but when it comes down to it, the savings from Walmart has been pretty amazing.
Cleaning – Set out small daily goals for this. The days of cleaning the house in 4 hours are gone. If you have the extra money, a house cleaner is a great treat once a month to help with the deep cleaning! In the first two months, I’d highly suggest saving for this!
Entertainment that is mobile
The TV will either be too loud, you cannot find the remote or on a show you didn’t plan on watching. All of the shows you loved before having the baby are still available, just consider going Mobile! iPhones, iPads, Amazon Tablets all have solutions. Most cable providers even have online streaming now. We use DirectTV now, Netflix and Amazon Prime and its a lifesaver. Bluetooth headphones solve the noise challenge!
These little things helped me restore my sanity before I returned to work and encountered Career Mom status.